Provided the current acceleration in domestic abuse and divorce rates, in this article we are evaluating the toxicity prevalent in intimate relationships and how it takes a toll on mental health. It is clear that most people are unaware of setting healthy boundaries and identifying red flags. Keep reading to find out what a toxic relationship looks like:
They Belittle You
Anything that you wear, cook or accomplish is never enough or praiseworthy; their’s is surely better. If your partner keeps on passing remarks in public and private spaces that trivialise your feelings repeatedly, this is a major red flag!
This is the most common trait of toxic partners. The reason why people simply exhibit such behaviour is that they are so self-absorbed, they can’t digest the fact that someone else is doing better than them. As a result, you keep on striving for perfection and end up in the grave of your own self-worth.
They Want to be Incharge
From which movie to watch, where to get takeout from to when to have sex, everything flows in the direction of their choice; they don’t even bother to ask if you are up for it. If your significant other wants to do it, you should too as, after all, that’s what all good partners do. In case you try to go against their will and make a decision on your own, you likely could end up being named and shamed for it, whenever and wherever possible. Your partner always being in charge will over time make you question your decision-making capabilities.
Yelling and throwing tantrums is the normality if anything goes against their will. To top it off, their explanations entail the cliche ‘I am short-tempered’. You are in for a very unpleasant ride my friend as you will always feel on edge. No matter what you do, they find a way to be upset. Trust us, it’s not worth letting your stomach churn into a ball over the toxicity.
They are too Possessive
Possessive partners are bad news. They interrogate you about being late or early, where you are going and with whom you are going. In short, they can make your life miserable.
Some even go to extremes, consistently tracking down their partner’s physical location or placing hidden cameras to eavesdrop and keep an eye on their activities. Their suspicion multiplies with time. All your effort to reassure them about your commitment and fidelity likely goes down the drain as they show no signs of understanding. So, if you choose to stay with a person you know is controlling, you inevitably may have to give up on everything outside that relationship.
We believe what distinguishes a toxic relationship from a healthy one is the severity and frequency of how often the above-mentioned behaviour occurs. If you are unsure about your relationship, discuss it with a trusted friend or a relationship coach. It’s not a bad idea to give someone a second chance; however, if they keep on repeating the pattern, you need to make a choice between them and your mental peace.
Don’t fall for the little trap of love, we know that it can be blinding. Never forget, respect comes first.